I really enjoyed the readings from Goddard's book. I do beleive that marriage is part of Gods plan. I love when he said, "We will only suceed at marriage as we use eternal gospel principles to become moreof what God has invited us to become. Marriage is God's graduate school for advanced training in Christian character." I have always felt that when my husband and I are really following the Lord's commandments and doing all the things we are taught to do, we are happier as a couple. Just last weekend we were on our date night, and we were talking about how we have not been seeing eye to eye on several things. We had been arguing more than normal. We agreed that we needed to be better with our temple attendance, and that we had been missing several days of scripture reading. When we are closer to the Lord, we carry that spirit with us and into our relationship.
I also found the Gottman reading very interesting. In the introduction, Gottman talked about the defense mechanisms we learned to use as a child and how we tend to continue to use these in our marriages. I sat down with my husband and went over the items on the list. We were both surprised by how many we could remember using just in the last couple days.
We also realized how important our friendship is to our marriage. We have been married for twnety years, and we are genuinly best friends. We were best friends before we were boyfriend and girlfeiend. We feel lucky that we have maintained that friendship throughout our marriage. We really so like each other!
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